October 2009 Archives

Christmas Dilemma

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So I've run into a small dilemma.  To save money for moving I opted to make Christmas gifts for everyone this year.  I also decided to make it a project by making things entirely out of scrap fabric and fabrics that otherwise would have been tossed away.  So I'm down to just a few left... namely the in laws and I can't bring myself to make them gifts.  I was okay with it when we first thought of the idea but now I'm stuck.


Short and vague story (if you want to know more you'll have to ask me personally): 

After planning and making everything in our wedding myself while graduating college and moving I kicked my sister in law out of our wedding because of numerous problems with her and lastly, lying to me and the rest of the family.  Those that know me know how much I hate liars.  So after hearing wonderful remarks of my worthlessness, my in laws haven't talked to me in over two years because of it.  Then they made it worse for us after our marriage even after I personally apologized by phone and letters to try and make amends.  The last time we tried to arrange a meeting, which was not the first, to resolve the problems I was hung up on so we canceled our flights to his sister's graduation because of it.  We knew then that it was time to just be done with his family.  Richard talks with them but that's it.  I'm not brought up.  On my birthday they call him to tell me happy birthday.  As for Christmas I can tell how much they think of me.  Last Christmas I got a wooden tea light holder, yes I'm serious.  The year before, this newlywed received, as I discovered later was a joke gift of flannel kid sock monkey pajamas that Richard banned me to wear because they were that horrible.  It was then I realized I shouldn't care about taking the time to send them something personal or nice.


I'm okay with not hearing from them but what I'm not okay with is... if I put my heart into making something for them and I don't get that personal thank you I will be very upset.  I mean when you make something yourself even when you don't mean to there's always some kind of personal attachment.  Also I'm not a fan of the bought gift or card.  On the rare occasion I do buy something for someone I have a reason for it or I will put a personal touch on it and I'll tell you why it made me think of that person.  The only thing I ever ask in return is a thank you for thinking of me.  I don't need a gift back.  I just want to know personally that it made you happy.


So do I make something for them  knowing if I don't get that personal thanks I'll be more upset with my in laws than before or just suck up saving and buy a gift I don't care about and send it on as I've done in the previous years?  Also knowing it will upset Richard that I don't want to make something for his family and annoy him to spend money on gifts when we previously agreed we wouldn't.


Not so cheers today,


Projects of life

When I last posted, which I know has been quite awhile, I mentioned moving.  We decided to lead with our heads and not our hearts on moving.  We are going to try and sell our house in Dallas, TX first.  It's so we can move to a location we really want instead of somewhere near the area and move again later to the better location.  We would like to move less.  So we signed a 6 month lease to stay here in Wichita.  The condition for staying would be I get to make the place like I want it... meaning I get to decorate and such.  Yay!


After much debate about our working situations, we share an office and hate it, Richard decided to move into our gargantuan closet.  He likes clean dark cave like areas and I'm bright messy working huge open spaces.  But the closet is not bad, I mean it's mega huge.  It could be a room seriously.  Because it also extends as our bedroom closet we had to hang a curtain.  He worked on moving all of my many many supplies out while I was trying to sell things over the weekend.


That sale, US Hwy 36 Treasure Hunt, was a blow.  Made like $15.  I went with two other Etsy team members who also didn't do so well.  Apparently the neighboring towns were reporting it was dead too.  The locals said this was the worst year.  I blame economy.  It ran from Friday to Sunday but it was so dead on Saturday we packed up, had canceled our hotel reservations, and left by 3pm.  I didn't tell Richard I was coming home early so I snuck into the apartment and quietly sneaked up behind him in his closet office to scare him to hell.  It was fun, lol.  He didn't think it was, but I still do :)


Oh one great thing that came out of the sale was I found four great antique chairs for a total of $10, ten bucks!  I have started to refinish them for our refinished dining room table I have to refinish again.  I messed with the table and destroyed part of the top so I have to re sand and re do everything, uh lol.  I'll post more on the chairs later. 


Our mini road trip was fun.  We got to see good friends and family.  I'll post pictures when I get situated.


As for right now, my projects of late have been again getting my office space in order, painting the apartment walls, refinishing furniture, finishing a custom order for I can't say yet, our Halloween costumes, and now a custom job to make someone's Halloween costume.







Happy Second Anniversary

Today is Richard and my 2nd Wedding Anniversary!  We made it to two with out killing each other!  I say that jokingly; it's been a happy two years married.  He's a wonderful man.  We did a fancy dinner about a week and a half ago.  Today we had lunch and spent part of the day at the science museum.  Instead of giving gifts we decided for anniversaries we would go do something special.  Last year we had dinner and went to a funny play.  We were supposed to have a wine pairing class but it was canceled last minute.  I like doing something together and making memories way better than getting a gift I will probably forget about.